Autistic Wellness Tips: Calming Overloaded Brains on Heavy Days with Joann Tierney-Daniels

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[00:03:58] click the links in the show notes and see which plan is right for you Welcome to Crazy Fitness Guy Healthy Living Podcast where we strive to motivate people who are on the autism spectrum to live healthy lifestyles If you think this podcast is only for people

[00:04:15] who are autistic then think again whether you are autistic or not we have a mix of content from healthy living to everything in between that makes up a balanced and healthy life Autism is our backbone and we strive to support the autism community by motivating, inspiring

[00:04:31] and educating everyone about what autism is Please welcome your host Jimmy Clare who is a motivational speaker autism advocate, author and founder of Crazy Fitness Guy.com Welcome to another episode of Crazy Fitness Guy's Healthy Living Podcast I am my friend, Dorian

[00:04:55] and she's going to talk about her her interesting stories Welcome to the podcast Thanks Jimmy, it's great to see you again and thank you for having me on You're very welcome So tell me a little bit about yourself So, you know, as you know

[00:05:17] I'm a fitness is one of my passions as well as yours I've had a lifetime of dysfunctional relationship with food and eating and exercise and it wasn't until you know, you just you were fortunate you discovered the importance in the relationship but at a very young age

[00:05:34] but it really wasn't until I was about 50 that I really took a hard look at myself and began to turn my life around and lost I actually lost 100 pounds at one point and but really it wasn't about the weight even after that journey and I lost the weight

[00:05:50] I still had to do some additional work on my emotional intelligence and to pull myself together and that's really what happened So, you know, I certainly am an advocate for people, you know living healthier lifestyles and I hope that my lesson is that they learn at young

[00:06:08] don't wait until you're 50 to begin your journey I didn't I don't know if I told you this before during I think I didn't when was the last time we talked? Probably about six weeks ago we haven't spoken in a while Geez, it feels like a lifetime ago

[00:06:29] This pandemic is annoying It is, you're right It's almost I think we're coming out to a sense of normalcy pretty soon Yeah I mean, I said there was something called normal True I said that's why I said a sense because, you know, nobody

[00:06:44] there is no such thing as normal That's a great point But I don't know if I told you this but there was this So I the reason why when I the reason I can continue to eat healthy is because I'm in karate and there's some certain foods

[00:07:07] you cannot eat on the same nights you have karate like for instance for me like I can have soup or stew because even though it has vegetables and meat in it it is it's not enough It's not filling enough to make me Hey, you know, let me go

[00:07:30] get be ready for karate And then but then there's other foods where where sometimes it's too much like let me like big ziti for instance it's too heavy the blooded cheese the sauce can cause heartburn and and just so much extra

[00:07:57] sugar depending on what kind of pasta you use and I was like and my parents sometimes like but it's full protein and I was like just because it's full protein doesn't mean it's the necessary protein the healthy protein You're right and protein really is the key

[00:08:13] how many nights do you do karate? Three nights a week So three nights a week so you have to be pretty disciplined three nights a week which really is in some ways a benefit to you it's a it's a catalyst for you to to refine your eating habits

[00:08:27] on that day and yeah, that's a good strategy and plus I also I have tried to eat healthy six to seven times a week sometimes on the seventh I have a cheat meal depending on if it's a worthy cheat meal if it's not worthy I'll save for dessert

[00:08:45] That's a good strategy too So I'm inspired by you because you're very disciplined and I think that oftentimes that that's really the key even when you don't have the motivation because there are days when we don't we're not motivated there are days I don't want to get up

[00:09:00] there are days I don't you know, feel like hitting the gym at 5 a.m. but if you the key I think is discipline you just have to forge yourself to do it when you don't want to and you really mastered that

[00:09:11] so I think that that's really a great lesson for young people today for any people today So so I think you're you're a great role model in that regard Well, thank you well, I think people need to to view it as a lifestyle it's not just

[00:09:29] hey, well, once I lose the weight I can just eat whatever I want it doesn't work that way, unfortunately I would love to be able to do that. My brother, he seems to just eat whatever he wants and never gain an ounce I'm like, that's ridiculous

[00:09:47] but you know what? He will he's going to be my age someday and it's going to catch up to him so that's often what happens because as you age your metabolism changes and the people who haven't learned that and don't take your example

[00:10:02] they it catches up to them so I believe you'll be you'll be able to say to a mitologist one day I would love to say that but I don't think I would like to reek the repercussions of that Yeah, siblings are tough that's for sure

[00:10:18] I have three sisters so I feel you there So you say you told me you have an autistic child I do I have a 17 year old son who who has Asperger's and you know, I dorm he's a he's a sweetheart but his life certainly has had some challenges

[00:10:37] and he has some struggles with with his diet and exercise he's willing to die but you know, I think in my experience oftentimes children on the spectrum they just have an affinity for carbs and I don't know if that was your experience

[00:10:54] but you know, it's really difficult to get him he likes protein but he doesn't he likes crackers and goldfish more so and vegetables and fruits are really, you know, the plague to him so it's been a tough challenge I had a lovely hate relationship with

[00:11:12] with vegetables at that age as well I I'm starting I have I've expanded my range of vegetables but it kind of depends on what how it's cooked in it was some little bit of olive oil and garlic to and and for it to to be tender

[00:11:38] I can eat them but if I just steamed or or just raw I'm like no, I can't have broccoli raw as I well, I mean, my parents used to like have me and my brother sit at the dinner table until we finished all our vegetables and we

[00:11:57] and I can never finish my vegetables but when dessert was at stake, it was like OK, I mean my vegetables and it's like, you know, I wanted to throw up from the broccoli because like I hate broccoli no but broccoli is

[00:12:14] broccoli is the only vegetable my son likes he eats it every night I was funny, my we go to these Chinese food periodically once in a while and I always like to be from broccoli because it has a nice sauce and the broccoli soaks it all up

[00:12:38] and as I look, I didn't even taste the broccoli now that's because it has all the fat and that's the good kind of broccoli yeah, so that's good. So I once in a while, yeah, that's a great treat.

[00:12:52] So I try to, you know, since you and I have connected I, you know, I try to encourage my son to check out your website because you are such an inspiration to to anyone who's overcome you had way challenges yourself and I love how you pulled that together.

[00:13:09] What what was the catalyst for you that made you want to change your lifestyle? I would say it was because of bullying. I got bullied all the way from elementary school as a way to high school and losing that 30 pounds

[00:13:28] and even it wasn't like a butt loader weight. I needed to lose that weight to see muscle. And once I saw the muscle and and there's the benefits for my mental health and everything, I was like, these guys in heaven and I haven't enough confidence

[00:13:50] is to stand up in my math class just to yell at them and tell them to leave me and my friends to hell alone. Of course afterwards, they wanted to be my friend afterwards and say, please don't hurt us. And say

[00:14:08] I was like, I won't hurt you yet if you leave me alone, but don't mess with me. And I don't want to be friends. I love that story because you stood up for yourself and you and you adopted the healthier lifestyle.

[00:14:27] So it's such a it's such a success all the way around. And it's funny that you mentioned that. I love that small gains really change your your lifestyle. Like even today, you know, my son's trying to lose 20 pounds and one of my younger sons.

[00:14:42] And, you know, he came in and he lost three pounds. And now he's just so much more focused, you know? And I love that. I think that people forget you. You have the end goal. You have to lose 30 pounds, 40 pounds.

[00:14:53] But just a small, you know, a three pound loss really can get your momentum going and change your your mindset. And then a lot oftentimes you become your own best cheerleader and you want to keep going, keep going.

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[00:17:07] We just sat our initial and then and then I booked on here. So I'm so sorry. So we have a whole other conversation to come and I get to share you with the world. So that's going to be an exciting day for me. Oh, I'm so sorry.

[00:17:20] I can't believe today when I chatting back and forth a messenger, I looked back and it's like, oh, whoops, I let this one go. Let's go. You're saving the best. You're saving the best for for last to put me at the end of the month.

[00:17:36] So I'll be at least the last at the end of the month. And that'll be a great, great opportunity for me. So I'm looking forward to it. Guess my time has just gone away from me. Like next week is my spring break

[00:17:48] and I have like then five more weeks of class. And I was like, oh, my God. That means you have a lot to do in the next five weeks. Right? I hope not. Now, how does how does COVID impact you? Are you doing virtual schooling?

[00:18:04] Everything is virtual and it kind of gets tiring after a while because it just you don't really get to interact with people. My last class last semester, we got to interact a lot with the teacher and the other students. But this one's like some people ask questions.

[00:18:28] Other people say quietly and it's like, you know, so we could just actually talk to each other or get to know each other first. We just went right into class and I'm like. Well, I think that that'll probably turn around for you soon

[00:18:44] and you will be able to do some some more mingling because I really think it's tough for students to have to, you know, you virtually at home and then you have to do that. You're responsible for the work and you miss some of the connection, especially

[00:18:59] especially for people have a difficult time socializing. So I think it's it's great. Podcasting has been a really great experience for me, too, that I've adopted during and during COVID because it's given me an opportunity to to share some of some about myself

[00:19:14] and to help others and hopefully inspire them. And I agree with you that it's become a great vehicle for connection and to meet new friends. You and I never would have met if it weren't for the world of podcasting. And, you know, I really value that connection.

[00:19:29] So it's been great for me. I have a question for you. What were some of your eating habits when you were growing up? So when I was growing up, you know, and that that was a long time ago, I had a similar a similar parental.

[00:19:50] My parents had similar views as yours. You sit at the table, you eat all your food. And I think one of the things that for me is that my mother worked nights and my father was responsible for the cooking, which meant we ate out quite a bit.

[00:20:07] You know, we would play a little league and it was just my sisters and I and then, you know, he would take us for McDonald's and then we'd go for ice cream after that. And we were and because we were and this is a stereo typical,

[00:20:20] but because we were girls, I mean, there weren't a lot of sporting opportunities for girls during that time. So so we didn't do much of that. And really over time, I believe that I use food as a coping mechanism

[00:20:35] and I became a binge eater and then I in there were periods in my life when I was anorexic. So I think that really I use food for many different reasons and not as fuel. And we didn't have the nutritional knowledge at that time.

[00:20:51] Our parents didn't speak to us about they didn't talk about that in school. And my parents didn't speak to me about that. So really, I use food food as something it wasn't intended to be either

[00:21:02] as a punishment or as a comfort or just out of boredom and really. And we didn't have healthy options. You know, back then carbs and macros weren't talked about every night. My mother would give us a slab of meat and a plate of potatoes.

[00:21:18] You know, I came from an Irish background and that's what we ate every night. And as you know, if you eat a plate of mashed potatoes, it's it's probably not in your best interest. Unless if it's boiled with no butter or mashed potatoes without butter.

[00:21:33] Right. But who wants that? That's true. But yeah, I'm actually now these days when I have potatoes, I have no butter on them. And it's either baked or put in the oven or microwave or or boil, but no butter and no salt. That's pretty impressive.

[00:22:01] But you know, and it's funny, I had so many potatoes growing up. I rarely have a potato today. And it's not that I don't care for them, but they're just not my my favorite anymore. And if I do, it's never, I don't want to say never on Thanksgiving.

[00:22:14] I might have mashed potatoes, but I'm more like roasted potatoes or once in a while I have some french fries, but I hardly ever have pasta or potatoes anymore. And not because I'm adverse to them. I'll still have pretzels or other types of carbs.

[00:22:29] But I'm not I don't have much of an attraction for those things anymore. Yeah, I'm not really a big fan of fries anymore either, especially when I used to went to McDonald's a lot. Because you could either get them hot or cold or soggy. Especially three choices.

[00:22:48] I think it's just put that in the menu. Hey, do you want hot fries, cold fries or soggy fries? Right. It's like a it's like a magic trick. And then yeah, if you get there's only one out of three,

[00:23:00] you really want and that's, you know, that's a long shot. Yeah. And so. But like last night, I had this chicken sandwich had lettuce tomato and bacon on it and and and what and it came with the sweet potato fries.

[00:23:25] And so I decided to eat the sweet potato fries. It was hot and it was actually good sweet potato fries. I don't think I mean, yeah, sorry, it was kind of unhealthy fries. But I mean, it could be a lot worse.

[00:23:42] Could have extra salt and could be extra. It could just be deep fried and whatnot. But I was like, I barely have fries anymore. And to me last night, there's I think it was about like four or five fries, so I was like, it's not too bad.

[00:24:02] I think sweet potato fries are a great option. And I think you want to you want to live your life in moderation. There's something you want. You know, if it were me and I wanted those sweet potato fries

[00:24:12] and I was out to dinner and I wouldn't have them, they would drive me crazy. They would be in my mind for the entire night. And then instead I would at midnight I'd be up having, you know, laze potato chips or something to try to substitute that.

[00:24:24] So I'm I encourage anybody who really wants something to go for it. You know, you just have to keep in check for your next meal. And I think that that's that for me is the key, you know, because I would find myself if I deprived myself of something,

[00:24:39] then I would have six of something else. And it really and I used to do that on the holidays all the time. I would be when I was in really a dysfunctional state. I would go to Christmas dinner and I would be fanatical about not having it.

[00:24:54] And then I would come home at night after I wouldn't eat in front of my family. Then I would come home at night when everybody was sleeping. I would be eating, you know, the chocolate sannas

[00:25:03] or when I could have really enjoyed a meal that I would have appreciated and loved. And I deprived myself of that. And then I was really ravenous later on and it just spiraled out of control. For me during the Christmas break or holiday breaks, I like

[00:25:25] for instance, I like to like last weekend, I gave myself a treat by having two Christmas cookies. But then on Sunday, didn't have any. I had on Saturday night and it's like not going to hurt me.

[00:25:43] And it was like, I'll probably just burn it off right on Monday. Karate class and then I was like burnt that off and I had work on Tuesday morning as I was probably still burnt it off. And I'm

[00:26:00] I know I'm I know I'm younger and fast metabolism and whatnot. But for me, I love them. I love my mom, big Christmas cookies. And she accused me this morning and I had to correct her.

[00:26:20] And she's like, well, I was like, I don't want to just bake for Tim Bake. And then you won't eat it because I end up eating it all and say, where have you been the last two weekends as I've been having

[00:26:32] your Christmas cookies on the garage and I may not be. Maybe I'm not eating it fast enough as you are. You would be. But I do have them here and there. I just don't have them during the day because it's like, no, can't do it.

[00:26:49] Now just be hyper for karate class and say, hyper, hyper, hyper. Do right here. Stand still. I think I think that's great. And I think too, even I think people make the mistake that they think that willpower is going to cut it and willpower never, never stands alone.

[00:27:06] It always needs a little bit of help. So you have a plan, you have two cookies at a time. So I think willpower with the plan really really is part of the key to your success.

[00:27:15] So I mean, because willpower and I think that people punish themselves for not if they fall, if they falter and then they're like, I was so weak. I didn't have enough willpower, but it's really not about the willpower.

[00:27:27] It's really about meal planning and making room for snacks and fitting in. Like you said, a cheat meal when you need it. I mean, that doesn't work for me, but I love the idea of it.

[00:27:39] For me, I recognize that a cheat meal is going to turn into a cheat day and then a cheat day could spiral into a cheat week. So I try to keep that in moderation. But that's a plan that works for me.

[00:27:50] And I love that two cookies is a plan that works for you. And I think that that's great advice for people. And so I have another question for you. Was it like to be a parent and to a person who's on the autistic spectrum?

[00:28:10] I know I could ask my mom, but I don't really want to find that information. Well, I think for your mom, it's it's too close to home and it would be difficult for her to answer that.

[00:28:23] And for me, if my son was asking, it would be difficult for me to tell him. And I think that when you're expecting a baby, you have all of these hopes and dreams for a child, you know? And we all romanticize what that's going to be.

[00:28:41] We think, oh, my son, you know, when I found out he was going to be a boy, you know, immediately you think he's going to be captain of the football team or president of the United States or are going to NASA.

[00:28:54] And in the same with a girl, you know, whatever you I only have son. So whatever you images that you have for their success in future. And then, you know, as time goes on, when you first get that diagnosis,

[00:29:12] it's initially heartbreaking and it's not heartbreaking because you're disappointed or you think any less of your child or love your child any differently. It's because you know that their life is going to be more difficult and no parent wants their child's life to be difficult.

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[00:30:44] and not to say that somebody on the spectrum can't be anything that they want to be, they can be, but it's much more difficult, as you know, to be captain of the football team because, you know, there's a bullying component

[00:30:56] and you know, there's a popularity component and you know that, you know, like my son would never the entire realm of football, you know, they're screaming and he didn't wouldn't like loud sounds and there were just things that would never

[00:31:13] online for him in that world if he had wanted it perhaps. But it just wouldn't have worked it. And I think that and he had some some academic challenges. So I realize he probably isn't going to be president of the United States maybe.

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[00:32:45] for instance, when we would go to a birthday party and he's much he's very high functioning, but at that time he would run around all of the time. And I was thinking about that today.

[00:32:54] You know, we would go to a birthday party and he would just be running around, running around, running around, even never sit still, never talk to the other kids. And the only reason he was invited is because at that time, you know, you invited the whole class here.

[00:33:07] You know, so I think that if he was if the first grade you're invited to the party in fifth grade or now he's in a junior in high school, he never gets invited anywhere. And I think that when he was running around, there was a little bit of

[00:33:24] you know, because it was a struggle for me too. And I felt as if I was excluded. The other moms didn't talk to me because I'm sure they didn't know how to approach me, you know, because my challenges were different.

[00:33:36] So, you know, there are probably instances in your life where you felt excluded. I'm sure your mom felt that way too, because the other moms probably didn't embrace her and at least in my situation, they didn't. So I wasn't in with the other popular moms and I wasn't

[00:33:53] invited to parties and I believe it was because of my son and I didn't need that. I don't need that, but I think it was just it made me reframe my thoughts of those other parents and it was difficult for me.

[00:34:08] I saw them in a different light and I felt as if they could have been more compassionate and I and I when I really needed help in during those early initial days and challenges, I wish that they would have helped me

[00:34:24] and lend it and and and embraced me and said, hey, because I had two other sons too. Let me take your other son. Let me help you at basketball practice. Let me invite your son to a party and those things didn't happen.

[00:34:37] And I lost my desire to want to be friends with those people. So, you know, I was kind of alone for a long time. I felt alone in my neighborhood, in my community.

[00:34:46] And and until I until I started for me and I don't know if you did this in your community, you know, then we started going to social groups and then I met parents with other parents with children on the spectrum.

[00:34:59] And then I felt as if I had some friendships and some camaraderie. But that didn't really happen until he was five or six. So it was it was a tough three or four years. And but I love my son. I would not trade him from the world.

[00:35:14] He's the most kind, compassionate. He's actually the nicest person I've ever met. He cares about people in a way that I don't, you know, if we go by construction site and, you know, there, you know, he wants us to slow down because he doesn't

[00:35:30] want to risk their lives or like you had an experience today at Staples. If we went into Staples and I was disgruntled with the clerk, you know, he would call me out and say, mom, that person is doing their job and you are

[00:35:42] your annoyance is you're taking it out on somebody who doesn't deserve it. So he has a maturity and a compassion and empathy for people that is amazing. And I think that I think being on the spectrum is part of that. So I wouldn't change him for the world.

[00:35:59] He was meant the way to be the way he was. I was meant to be his mother and he has enriched my life and made me his presence in the world makes me a better person. And I'm sure your mom feels the same way too.

[00:36:13] I guess I'm a very I guess I'm I guess I'm not very polite when when I'm in stores, I mean, I don't bite someone's head off in the stores, but I was just disgruntled. There's one thing to myself, looking at the prices of just looking for

[00:36:37] actually USB ports for my computers, two computers. And one of them only comes with one. I was like, oh, gee, $500 computer can can't get can't get two. Come on. But but I was just kind of disgruntled because and I didn't mind getting out

[00:36:57] and about because I wanted some fresh air. But but but I was like, really? For just 40 ports, I could for 40 bucks and like that's a rep. And I was like, I know retail has to make their money. But come on, that's that's ridiculous.

[00:37:19] And I'm not looking for something fancy. I'm not even looking for something in charge of something. I just I just want something to stick in the side of my computer. Here's some extra ports that should be like, I don't know, 20 bucks at most. I don't know.

[00:37:37] But your strengths are something different than his. You know, we all have our own strengths and weaknesses. Whereas you're an entrepreneur where I don't envision you have a different drive, a passion and an ambition that he's not there yet.

[00:37:52] You know, you identify what it is that you need to do. You're you're an entrepreneur, you're a business person, you're a successful podcaster and as a young person, I think that and you're a great communicator. And he's not there yet. That communication is in his forte.

[00:38:08] But I think that your strengths, you've developed them and you're successful than many people your age and you certainly have a drive and a passion and an inspirational story that others don't have. So I think that, you know, hey, we all get

[00:38:22] disgruntled or annoyed, your your strengths are something different. And there's certainly something to be applauded and commended. And I'm so proud of you and and I stand with your mother. I think that you're an amazing man. And thank you.

[00:38:37] But I just want to clarify for all my listeners, I did not yell. I didn't run specifically. I had my mask on and I was just kind of like, I would never run, run, run, run, run off. And you were right. That is an inflated price.

[00:38:52] So I agree with you there. Yeah. So I was like, that's a crazy price. Like I could get the same thing, get the same kind of thing from Amazon for seven bucks. I'm sure I have to pay for shipping, but you want

[00:39:06] think about if I had to buy at the store, I still have to pay tax. So it's 40 bucks and plus I think that I don't know what the tax rate here in Pennsylvania is, but I think it's like I don't even know.

[00:39:21] But so you're a savvy shopper to add that to your list of attributes. Yeah. I just wouldn't have to find the good deals. I even had some tools in my web browser to tell me it's like you could get a

[00:39:35] good deal off of this website is like, OK, I'm going to go there. Well, you should you should add some affiliate links to your podcast and things like that. Then then you can monetize that a little bit or your website for things, your computer equipment, your fitness equipment.

[00:39:52] That's the great avenue to far for someone who you really have a brand you branded yourself in and you could really capitalize on that on the on the fitness community and the tools and and equipment that you utilize. So so just so tell me a little bit.

[00:40:13] Do you have your own website? I do have my own website. It's in my my name is Jordan, Terny Daniels. So my most almost everything that I associate that you can associate with me is called JTD coaches me. So my website is www.jtdcoaches me.

[00:40:32] I can be found on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter under those handles. I'm not not on tic tac yet. I have to brush up on my dance and skills before I get to that realm. But that's where you can find me.

[00:40:46] And if I'm more information about me, you can reach out to me directly. Like podcasts links are on there as well. It's funny. People always think that tic tac is just for dancing. I actually put some of my podcasts on there. Just some promotions and one night.

[00:41:04] And I actually like one hundred and eight nine people played my podcast on it. So I was like, OK, that's amazing, you're going to have to teach me how to do it. That is something that I want to learn. All right, so no one is in my dance.

[00:41:25] I'm with you there. So when you master it, you'll have to add now when you come on to my show. You'll have a master and you can give me some tips. I don't think I would have mastered. There's always something better.

[00:41:39] All right, well, we'll have to take a tutorial. We'll we'll we'll both learn and then we'll post a class and others will have to come to us for help. We'll have to hire like a seven year old to show us how tic tac works.

[00:41:51] Yeah, if I was seven, I'll probably be both of us. Exactly. So before I let you go. So just our curiosity, what do you help people on your website with? Like you said, you're a coach. So I do. I help people on a variety of things.

[00:42:16] And for me, I think initially I was focused on weight loss, weight management. But I've kind of shifted that up a little bit because I think as adults and you can probably back this up, we really all know what to do.

[00:42:30] We know we have to eat less, exercise more and drink more water. The make a plan. But for me, I think the secondary piece was I needed to change my mindset and to change my mindset really was the key.

[00:42:43] You have to do the physical piece, but you also have to do the mental piece too. So, you know, so I've really done some research and I'm and I'm becoming more attuned to how neuro linguistic programming works and how it can really help revolutionize your life.

[00:43:01] So it's two folds I help with this fitness piece like you do. Not so much fitness. I mean, you are a fitness guru, but I can advise on fitness. I don't do fitness classes, but I can, you know, I do mindful nutrition and mindset coaching.

[00:43:19] So I'd be happy to speak to anybody about that. Occasionally I do free challenges monthly, you know, on different topics and occasionally I have group sessions as well. And I really give a lot of information out in my podcast really is about

[00:43:35] overcoming adversity and the growth that comes out from the other side. And, you know, season one was really about some very inspirational people. And that's set to launch soon. So hopefully you'll get in on those inaugural guests, Jimmy.

[00:43:49] And then the second piece I'm going to be looking at, you know, couples who have come through growth, you know, a divorce or a breakup or or just a co-parenting situation and they've managed to have a civil relationship, which is a rarity.

[00:44:04] So those are things to look forward to. Yeah, definitely. I like for me, you're kind of you're kind of in the was in the ballpark of me just being fitness at first. But when I jumped

[00:44:23] a few different majors, I'll tell you that story when I'm on your podcast. All right, great. Just so I don't bore my listeners because they know exactly who I probably know who I am by now with the last thing. This will never be like 16 episodes out now. Great.

[00:44:44] Never be afraid to tell your story again and again, because that's why they keep coming back. They have a fondness for you and you're very charismatic and personable. And I'm sure they love listening to you. I hope so. Well, as I can say, there was this I for

[00:45:04] but I changed the focus of my website when I found the major that I wanted to be in, which is media studies, which can get me into motivational speaking I could also be a social media marketer, which I really don't want to

[00:45:26] or I could be a sports broadcaster, a radio show host, a publisher, a copywriter, etc. And but so then once I got into that, I switched up my website to be for motivational to get people to start living a healthier lifestyle.

[00:45:48] Because I thought, well, you know, there's always like you see all these other fitness websites always telling you, hey, here's how you to do this. But there's no when I read a lot of fitness stuff when I have time.

[00:46:06] And what I've seen is that there's always someone telling you, hey, you should do these exercises. You need to eat this amount of nutrients and another thing to lose this amount of weight or gain this much of weight or gain

[00:46:25] muscle here and there, but there's no when I was tells you, here's here's how you should get started. You need this. You need the motivation to do this. There's nothing but to say, hey, you know, this is how I started. Here's some inspiration off of me.

[00:46:42] It is like, well, here's this, this, this and this. And it's like, yeah, I can tell you this, this and this and this. But your mind's telling you is like, why the heck would I want to do any of this, this and this and this?

[00:46:54] Right. Because it's hard. It's hard to get started. I think that's I think you're you're made a wise move. And I think that the key is to recognize that it's not a one size fits all

[00:47:05] solution. You really have to get to know the people in your lives and that you're in that you're helping and find something that works for them. Because, for instance, macros, I mean, when I was doing, you know,

[00:47:16] becoming certified as a health coach, one of the one of the first lessons that you learn are there a hundred diets, over a hundred dietary, dietary theories out there and they all work. They just don't all necessarily work for everyone. You know, you can count your macros.

[00:47:32] You can, you know, do weight watchers. You can do Akins. You can do, you know, keto. But they don't necessarily work for everybody. And everybody will get I have some success on all of those. But you really have to find the perfect formula for you.

[00:47:49] And it's not only about the exercise. It's not only about the food. It's exactly what you said. You need someone to inspire and motivate. That's why coaches need coaches. We have the skills, but sometimes we need a little bit of motivation and support.

[00:48:03] And I think that's something that everybody needs, you know, to be a feeling of everybody wants to be heard and and inspired and and and to be someone to help them grow. And that's why I didn't want it just to become

[00:48:18] another personal trainer or another nutrition coach or just another coach. I'm not saying that's what you are. I'm just saying I didn't want to. I want to differentiate myself and it's like, well, I know there's different motivational speakers like you have Tony Robbins who does

[00:48:37] motivational speaking, but also does stuff with business. But then you have Lewis House, who's I would say I say he's a motivational speaker and also like a really big top podcaster, which I would love to be on this show one day. Who is it? Lewis House.

[00:48:57] Yeah, did you have you reached out to him? Yeah, he has strict guidelines on his website. And and so but I've been keeping him in the loop every time when I hit a certain milestone, I just because maybe one day I'll get that nice email.

[00:49:17] This is like Lewis House wants to be on your once you're on his show and it's like, hell yeah. It's like that would be awesome. You should you should go in and put in a request as a media person, because you are a media person.

[00:49:32] That's often how I request now. I go right through their website and go to their to their requests for interviews and media because I consider myself to be part of that genre, especially you. You're a media student.

[00:49:43] So I would try that and then they have a direct email for their media company and you may get in front of a different audience, a different. And I'm sure he doesn't answer his own emails, but it might be the right person.

[00:49:55] So, you know, sometimes you got to break the rules. His guidelines might be strict, but I suggest you try to circumvent the channels a little bit because you really have a unique perspective on on podcasting and

[00:50:09] fitness. And I think you have to remember too that there are motivational speakers and there are some of the great ones. Tony is one of the great ones. Les Browns, one of the great ones. David Goggins, all inspirational people.

[00:50:21] But you have a different population that you could, you know, really the children and young adults in the autism community really could benefit from someone like you who who has the confidence and skillset and ability to change their lives.

[00:50:39] So, you know, that you have a unique niche and I encourage you to pursue that because, you know, that's one of your greatest strengths, your story and your personal experiences. Who knows? Maybe during my spring break, I might

[00:50:54] send him a message on this to see if I can break the rules. In a good way. These are the good laws. This is this is rules on his website that specifically answers. As I go, you need to be a best song. You should.

[00:51:18] The internet can be in a distraction place. It's full distractions like social media, shopping and so many more websites that are very distracting, just like video games and whatnot. But it is all over the place. So much noise going on.

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[00:52:50] or a well-known author, a well-known speaker? I was like, well, I haven't been I'm not well known yet. But as I one day he actually replied to one of my he replied to some of my comments on LinkedIn and he's even I even said to this him on

[00:53:12] on Instagram one day. I should know it was just Twitter. And I said to him, he's like, one day I'm going to be on your show. And he replied back and it's really funny. He replied back and he never said no. Good luck with that.

[00:53:28] He says like I look forward to it. You know, that's amazing. Never doubted. You never doubted. And I would remind I would remind him of that in your inquiry. What do all of the great and I know you listen to the motivational

[00:53:41] speakers like I do and what do they all say? They all say don't be afraid to ask. If you don't ask, if you don't bend the rules, then you're just going to be like everybody else. So I would take a screenshot of that.

[00:53:53] I would send it to him and I would say, remember what you said? You are looking forward to it. So I want to capitalize on that and I'm going to hold you to your word. So let's do it. That's what I would say. That's my suggestion.

[00:54:06] And so on my podcast, I can't wait till you tell me that you're going to have to reschedule because you're on Lewis, the house's podcast. So so that's my challenge to you because I know you can do it. Oh, bummer. And another challenge. Gosh.

[00:54:22] Well, thanks for your time and before just everyone can find you. Can you just repeat where people can find you again? And I'll put them in the show notes. So the easiest way to find me is at www.jtdcoachesme.com. And I really enjoyed every minute.

[00:54:47] Thanks so much for having me and I can't wait to I can't wait to share this podcast and all of my social media outlets and I might tag I might tag Lewis house in

[00:54:57] and try to get some some buzz generated for you too, because you may not be well known in across the world, but you're well known across your circle. So so you already met that criteria in my book. Thanks. So guys, if you find any

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